Hey loves, welcome back to my blog. Today's post, dear younger me. Is and intimate post conveying 30 things that I'd tell my younger self. At first when I was creating this post I thought that coming up with a list of thirty things would be super difficult. To my amazement, as I reflected on things that occurred in my life. I realized that a list of thirty things is fairly easy to create. Not saying that I regret anything in my life, but if I had the chance to go back. There are a few things that I would have done differently. Without further delay here is my list of thirty things that I'd tell my younger self.
1. DON'T LET THEM BE MEAN TO YOU!
From middle school going into my junior year of high school, I was bullied. I was called all sorts of names, had a basketball thrown at my head (it missed me by a milli second). As all these things were happening, I kept quiet and kept it all to myself. Looking back, I wish that I would have said something, (not to the girls who were attacking me), but to a teacher, principal, guidance counselor. Just someone who could be in my corner, so I wouldn't have to face it all alone. I think that having a mediator would've helped to stop the bullying from going on for so long, but in all things I'm thankful for that experience because it has helped shape me into the woman I am today.
2. DON'T BE AFRAID TO TRY OUT FOR THE FLAG TWIRLING TEAM.
Piggy backing off of the first point. I was afraid to try out for this team in high school due to the fact that some of the girls who didn't like me were on that team. I felt I wouldn't fit in. If I could go back I would tell my younger self to go for the team and be fierce no matter what those girls had to say.
3. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LEAD
I had many ideas that I wanted to pursue early on in my high school career, but I never went through with any of those ideas due to fear. I didn't get comfortable doing any leadership programs until my senior year of high school, but I longed to start sooner. If I could, I would tell my younger self not to be afraid, but to go out, lead, and be a voice to my peers.
4. DON'T LOOSE YOUR VIRGINITY AT 14
Yes I lost it young, mainly out of pressure and not feeling the best about myself. I got attention from an older boy in school and gave him something so precious without thinking twice. If I could go back and tell my younger self, I would make sure to be conscious of my worth, to tell myself that I was beautiful, loved and worth waiting for. Worth a man that truly loved me for who I was, and not just for my body.
5. WORK AND STUDY HARDER IN SCHOOL
Most of my freshman year of high school I started off good and then I began hanging out with a group of girls who made me feel accepted, but also lead me into the wrong things. I began cutting school and making poor choices. Looking back, I would tell my younger self to focus more on my education, because freshman year is the driving force for your GPA. As your GPA stays high, it increases your chances at getting scholarships for school. Everything I did had a roll to play in my future and I believe that a lot would be different if I had I not made those silly mistakes. If I had not cut school I would have focused more on my studies and gotten better grades, higher GPA, more scholarships and less student loans as an adult.
6. CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY
YES!! I can't stress this enough. Friends can be your downfall, you need a good support system around you. After my ups and downs with friends throughout the years. I can genuinely say that I have a great group of women around me. Look for friends that encourage, support and help you grow. Not friends that kill your dreams and low-key give you bad advice out of jealousy.
7. STAY AWAY FROM BAD BOYS
Self EXPLANATORY LOL wait for a good man, one who loves you for you and will do everything necessary to keep you happy and ensure that you are loved.
8. CHOOSE A SCHOOL THAT'S GOOD FOR YOUR WALLET AND NOT FOR YOUR IMAGE.
I say this because I made silly mistakes by going to a school that was super expensive, all because I didn't want to go to a community school. Looking back, I wish I had chose a school that was less pricey or went to the community school for two years and then transferred out. This would have saved me lots of money.
9. DON'T BE A REBEL LISTEN TO YOUR PARENTS
Yes, as much as I HATE to admit this, sometimes parents are right.
10. DON'T GROW UP TOO FAST, ENJOY BEING A YOUNG GIRL
11. SAVE MORE
I was always good at saving my lunch money as a young girl, but I felt that there was more I could have saved to get myself to where I wanted to be; especially when I started my first professional job. I was caught up with living at home, that I had money to blow and instead of saving. I spent, spent and spent. When I finally did begin to save again, life settled in and things got harder. If I could advise my younger self, I would tell her to save everything until the appointed time to reinvest it.
12. DON'T GET A CREDIT CARD STRAIGHT AFTER HIGH SCHOOL
13. SEND THAT APPLICATION TO FASHION SHCOOL
Growing up in an African household, fashion was not seen as a serious career option. I listened to my parents and instead of attending fashion school, I went to school for biology. Seeing how passionate I am about fashion and inspiring people through what I wear. If I could advise my younger self, I would tell her to apply to a fashion school or maybe go to a school where I could major in Biology and then minor in something fashion related. I would have just told a younger me to explore all of her options before writing it off.
14. TAKE SEWING COURSES
15. STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF
16. STICK TO YOUR INSTINCTS
Very important, your instincts never lie!
17. DON'T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK UP WHEN SOMETHING LOOKS OR FEELS WRONG
I had a real fear of speaking my mind because I felt no one would listen. I often kept things concealed. If I saw something going down I wouldn't speak up. If I could go back I would definitely tell my younger self to be more vocal.
18. DON'T TELL PEOPLE YOUR BUSINESS
19. TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL A LOT MORE
20. DON'T GO TO THAT PARTY!!
This one is pretty sensitive because I ended up going to an event with a friend and a guy ended up taking advantage of me. Although going through that made me stronger. If I could warn my younger self, I would tell her to trust her instincts and stay home.
21. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LOVE
22. TRY TO UNDERSTAND YOUR MOTHER'S POSITION INSTEAD OF RESENTING HER
Me and my mother love each other, but we never got along. Growing up we would always argue but I realize now that she only wanted the best for me, she just didn't know how to say it in a more gentle and compassionate way. She would always say things to make me afraid, but would never sit and gently explain why I couldn't do certain things. Now looking back I wish I could have been more compassionate and more understanding towards her.
23. EMBRACE CORRECTION AND DISCIPLINE
24. READ A LOT MORE
25. DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR BEING YOU, LOVE YOURSELF!
26. WORK SMARTER NOT HARDER
27. BUY PROPERTY
28. DON'T ARGUE IF YOU KNOW YOU'RE GUNNA DO IT ANYWAY
29. DON'T BE TOO NICE OR NAIVE
30. KEEP BEING FULL OF LOVE, NO MATTER WHAT YOU GO THROUGH!
This concludes my entire list of 30 things I'D tell my younger self. This has been an awesome journey and I'm thankful for all that I've been through and the positive changes that I will make in the future. Thank you all for taking the time to read this and or watch the video.
Love you lots.